{"id":2482,"date":"2026-04-21T15:57:16","date_gmt":"2026-04-21T13:57:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/?p=2482"},"modified":"2026-04-21T15:57:16","modified_gmt":"2026-04-21T13:57:16","slug":"disa-fjali-qe-prinderit-duhet-tu-thone-femijeve-te-rritur-sipas-psikologeve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/?p=2482","title":{"rendered":"Disa fjali q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit duhet t’u thon\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb rritur, sipas psikolog\u00ebve"},"content":{"rendered":"
Prind\u00ebrimi nuk mbaron kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt rriten dhe b\u00ebhen t\u00eb pavarur, por vazhdon p\u00ebrmes marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve q\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Psikologia Stacey R. Pinatelli thekson se lidhja e hershme me prind\u00ebrit luan nj\u00eb rol ky\u00e7 n\u00eb form\u00ebsimin e cil\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve n\u00eb mosh\u00eb madhore.<\/p>\n

Nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm momentet e kaluara s\u00eb bashku q\u00eb jan\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore, por edhe fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ofrojn\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb sigurie, pranimi dhe mb\u00ebshtetjeje. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin emocional dhe vet\u00ebbesimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb rritur. Sipas psikolog\u00ebve dhe hulumtimeve, k\u00ebto jan\u00eb frazat q\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e rritur sesa nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqafim.<\/p>\n

“Jam krenar p\u00ebr ty”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nd\u00ebrsa f\u00ebmij\u00ebt rriten, \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb ata t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit e tyre jan\u00eb krenar\u00eb p\u00ebr ta. Psikologu dhe terapisti Jeffrey Bernstein thekson: “Prind\u00ebrimi nuk ndalet kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt rriten”. Nj\u00eb sh\u00ebnim ose telefonat\u00eb e shkurt\u00ebr mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb madh, edhe n\u00ebse prind\u00ebrve u duket e panevojshme. Shprehja e krenaris\u00eb forcon ndjenjat e vler\u00ebs dhe lidhjes.<\/p>\n

“Nuk ke pse t\u2019i kesh t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb rregulluara”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Shum\u00eb t\u00eb rinj ndiejn\u00eb presion p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur pritjet n\u00eb nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar, gj\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb stres dhe pasiguri. Kur prind\u00ebrit thon\u00eb se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u2019i ken\u00eb t\u00eb qarta t\u00eb gjitha, ata d\u00ebrgojn\u00eb nj\u00eb mesazh mir\u00ebkuptimi dhe mb\u00ebshtetjeje. Kjo qasje zvog\u00eblon presionin dhe inkurajon autenticitetin. Prind\u00ebrit tregojn\u00eb se e vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb lumturin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre mbi normat shoq\u00ebrore.<\/p>\n

“Un\u00eb besoj n\u00eb \u00e7do vendim t\u00ebnd”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e rritur t\u00eb marrin vendimet e tyre, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht pas viteve t\u00eb t\u00ebra mb\u00ebshtetjeje te prind\u00ebrit e tyre. Nj\u00eb qet\u00ebsim mund t’u jap\u00eb atyre qet\u00ebsi dhe t\u00eb inkurajoj\u00eb pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb. Sondazhi Komb\u00ebtar i Sh\u00ebndetit t\u00eb F\u00ebmij\u00ebve i Spitalit CS Mott zbuloi se inkurajimi i pavar\u00ebsis\u00eb rrit vet\u00ebbesimin dhe q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb. Nj\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje e till\u00eb ka efekte pozitive afatgjata n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin mendor.<\/p>\n

“Gjithmon\u00eb mund t\u00eb kthehesh n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi”<\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira, si\u00e7 jan\u00eb ndarjet ose problemet financiare, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e rritur kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb sigurie. T\u00eb dish se ata gjithmon\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb vend ku jan\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebpritur sjell ngush\u00ebllim t\u00eb madh. Nj\u00eb mesazh i till\u00eb zvog\u00eblon ndjenjat e vetmis\u00eb dhe pasiguris\u00eb. Dhe her\u00eb pas here t’ua kujtosh k\u00ebt\u00eb mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm emocional.<\/p>\n

“Jam k\u00ebtu n\u00ebse ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Edhe kur nuk duan t\u00eb ndajn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka me prind\u00ebrit e tyre, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e rritur duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb se mb\u00ebshtetja \u00ebsht\u00eb aty. Bernstein shpjegon: “F\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb pranuar kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb zhvillojn\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme t\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimit.” Vet\u00ebm t\u00eb qenit n\u00eb dispozicion t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tyre mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mjaftueshme p\u00ebr t’i b\u00ebr\u00eb ata t\u00eb ndihen m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt. Ky mesazh nd\u00ebrton besim dhe af\u00ebrsi.<\/p>\n

“T\u00eb dua ashtu si\u00e7 je”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pranimi i pakusht\u00ebzuar ka nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm n\u00eb vet\u00ebbesim dhe identitet. Nj\u00eb studim i botuar n\u00eb Personality and Individual Differences zbuloi se autenticiteti \u00e7on n\u00eb mir\u00ebqenie dhe lumturi m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe. Kur prind\u00ebrit shprehin nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb till\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt ndihen m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt n\u00eb l\u00ebkur\u00ebn e tyre. Kjo i ndihmon ata t\u00eb mos konformohen me pritjet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2482","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-lajme"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2482","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2482"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2482\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2483,"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2482\/revisions\/2483"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2482"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2482"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/infoshqip.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2482"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}